This post title may have been deceiving and for those of you looking for something other than baby talk (snicker), you may feel you are no longer interested; then again, it’s actually pretty fascinating and you just might want to stick around.
With that said, I constantly speak candidly and truthfully kid around about my desire for this child I am carrying to be a boy. I have made references to being depressed after finding out or having to mentally prepare if this child is in fact a girl.
I was recently perusing some of the baby forums and found a post talking about the disappointment of finding out that they were carrying a male child. She went on to state reasons such as all the men in her and her husband’s families turn out awful and how he already has two sons from a prior relationship being a nightmare and their experience with their first child being a girl has been wonderful (if she knows like I know, wait til she gets further down the line, and see if she still thinks so – HA!)
At any rate, I was blown away that someone actually posted this and the response that people were giving her. There were several people who chimed in saying they felt the same way with preferences to one versus the other sex and then there were others that told her to get over herself, she should just be happy to be able to have a child and that there are way too many people that cannot have children that would love to be in her shoes.
I don’t remember if it was her or someone else that responded that even went as far as saying that they decided to not find out cause they figure that if they didn’t know and found out after they went through all the work of labor that they would just love the child because of what they had been through and bond from there.
I was kind of in awe about all of this. I mean, I know I kid, and although I have a strong preference for a boy, my main prayer is that this child is healthy and that God helps me and my husband to be the best parents that we can be to this child, according to his plan for this blessing.
I also hadn’t thought about it from the standpoint of all of those women who would give their lives to be able to conceive a child naturally and even some to carry a child to term. Until I began blogging, I was sort of oblivious to how many women are affected by infertility and other issues that keep them from conceiving and carrying a child naturally and with ease and seeing how many have taken to the blogging community to discuss their fertility issues and garner support.
I know the feeling of wanting and hoping to be able to conceive, as my journey took a little while. And while I have a preference, I don’t truly think I would be depressed by another girl ( I can’t speak for my husband though – poor fella, lol). Maybe once I start having to comb two heads in addition to mine, or dealing with all the emotions and things that come with girls (lol), but I am truly grateful for the blessing and being trusted with it.
What do you all think?
Do you or did you have a preference on the sex of your baby? If so and you did not get your preference, did it cause you any emotional strain or some type of depression?
Take to the comments and talk to me.
Be blessed folks,