This post title may have been deceiving and for those of you looking for something other than baby talk (snicker), you may feel you are no longer interested; then again, it’s actually pretty fascinating and you just might want to stick around.
With that said, I constantly speak candidly and truthfully kid around about my desire for this child I am carrying to be a boy. I have made references to being depressed after finding out or having to mentally prepare if this child is in fact a girl.
I was recently perusing some of the baby forums and found a post talking about the disappointment of finding out that they were carrying a male child. She went on to state reasons such as all the men in her and her husband’s families turn out awful and how he already has two sons from a prior relationship being a nightmare and their experience with their first child being a girl has been wonderful (if she knows like I know, wait til she gets further down the line, and see if she still thinks so – HA!)
At any rate, I was blown away that someone actually posted this and the response that people were giving her. There were several people who chimed in saying they felt the same way with preferences to one versus the other sex and then there were others that told her to get over herself, she should just be happy to be able to have a child and that there are way too many people that cannot have children that would love to be in her shoes.
I don’t remember if it was her or someone else that responded that even went as far as saying that they decided to not find out cause they figure that if they didn’t know and found out after they went through all the work of labor that they would just love the child because of what they had been through and bond from there.
I was kind of in awe about all of this. I mean, I know I kid, and although I have a strong preference for a boy, my main prayer is that this child is healthy and that God helps me and my husband to be the best parents that we can be to this child, according to his plan for this blessing.
I also hadn’t thought about it from the standpoint of all of those women who would give their lives to be able to conceive a child naturally and even some to carry a child to term. Until I began blogging, I was sort of oblivious to how many women are affected by infertility and other issues that keep them from conceiving and carrying a child naturally and with ease and seeing how many have taken to the blogging community to discuss their fertility issues and garner support.
I know the feeling of wanting and hoping to be able to conceive, as my journey took a little while. And while I have a preference, I don’t truly think I would be depressed by another girl ( I can’t speak for my husband though – poor fella, lol). Maybe once I start having to comb two heads in addition to mine, or dealing with all the emotions and things that come with girls (lol), but I am truly grateful for the blessing and being trusted with it.
What do you all think?
Do you or did you have a preference on the sex of your baby? If so and you did not get your preference, did it cause you any emotional strain or some type of depression?
Take to the comments and talk to me.
Be blessed folks,
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Yep I Birthed six children and each one is a blessing two girls and four boys. They are a handful but I know that Go saw fit for me to be their mother. I think it’s ok to want a specific gender but after finding out what it is I think like Carissa said you just thank God for your special little one and love him/her all the same. I think depression is a bit deep but more women than you think feel that way men included. I had an app on my IPhone called baby bump that was full of blogs like that. My last blessing was a surprise but a welcomed one and I didn’t care what the ender was even though I had a feeling it was a boy.
well said and kudos to you cause that is more than a quiver (bible reference)…lol. you more than met the requirement…LOL
I responded on the blog to ur comment, but I had no idea you birthed SIX children!!!!
I knew someone that was in a depression about the sex of their baby, and for the life of me I couldn’t understand it. Maybe because after I found out the sex of my baby I soon found out that she would be born with a cleft lip and palate, and that took priority over everything else! If God blesses you to be able carry a child, you should be thankful! You should be praying for a healthy baby, and life for that child and that you are the best parent/parents to that child. I think (my personal opinion) I think its horrible to be blessed with a child and then you are ungrateful enough to say that I still wanted something else! I wanted a boy also but when I found out I was having a girl, I was just as equally excited as I was before I knew the gender! Like I said early maybe the fact that Emma was born with a cleft lip/palate I look at things differently but I just don’t see being depressed about the gender when you know its a 50/50 chance of a girl or a boy!
I agree wit you Carissa, its a gamble, but the mere fact you can have a child is a blessing in and of itself. Now ask me how i feel after next Friday…lol – i kid! I love this little baby – boy or girl, I’m so thankful for the blessing!
Sorry for the typos
I think many women feel that way but are afraid to say it. It’s with anything in life that you hope and desire, if it doesn’t turn out the way you dream it to be then disappointment follows. For me I remember I wanted south for my third child to be a girl after having two boys, I can’t imagine how disappointed I probably would have been if it hadn’t turned our that way. Although I totally understand being thankful for what you get I also know the joy around getting what you ask for. Now I have been blessed to give birth to six beautiful children and I feel so thankful for each. Believe me boy or girl raising either sex is no cake walk and get this… They don’t come with instructions.
no biggie on the typs, i got what you meant. I agree, disappointment, yes, but depression. I mean she really said that she would be depressed, which is what got me. It just made me wonder if that is where some of the post partum depression that some women experience stems from and maybe they just dont speak on it. I had no idea you BIRTHED six kids…you are my SHERO!! lol.